Each year I create a post reflecting on my past year with resolutions for the coming year. However, 2016 absolutely left me speechless. I couldn’t seem to find the right words to express how I felt or what I learned. There were so many things to address, enough to create multiple blog posts. So instead of writing a conventional post, I will share something much more intimate. These are some of my favourite quotes that I hold dear to my heart.
“It’s very sad to me that some people are so intent on leaving their mark on the world that they don’t care if that mark is a scar.”-John Green
2016 was filled with so much pain and sorrow. The world faced many challenges; a huge refugee crisis, increasing terrorism in Europe, suffering in Syria and Iraq, growing racial tensions in the US, famine in Nigeria, and many more to state. With all the selfish and hateful acts, you cannot help but question, when did we forget how to be kind? When did kindness become considered a weakness? In my opinion kindness is a strength and hate is cowardly. It is much harder to hold your tongue and speak positively towards others. Kindness is honourable. On a much smaller scale, holding a door or wishing someone a good day does not cost you anything, but can mean the world to someone. Love and kindness are never wasted; they always make a difference. Kindness causes misunderstandings and hostility to vanish. Kindness is better than any possession. If we all remembered that, and if we all acted a little nicer to one another then maybe we would start a ripple effect. In 2017 remember to be kind, to care and to love. We may all be different and speak different tongues, but we all smile in the same language.
“It’s not our job to play judge and jury, to determine who is worthy of our kindness and who is not. We just need to be kind, unconditionally and without ulterior motive, even – or rather, especially – when we’d prefer not to be.” -Josh Radnor
We are all human. We all put on different personas and hide our demons in the closet. We should all be less critical of each other. Be cognizant of the fact that each person has their struggles, and no one ever deserves to be pushed when they are down. There will be people who will hurt you. There will be people who will push your buttons and try and tear you apart. You may have all the assumptions in the world as to why they are that way and to justify giving them a taste of their medicine. DON’T. Because you never know the real reason, and assumptions are usually false. Offer kindness and maybe along the way they’ll be reminded to be kind too.
“And it goes like this, if you love too much then you’ll hurt too much and anything in-between will always be a lie.” –R.M. Drake
Try to add a little bit of love to everything you do. Don’t be scared instead be passionate. When you do something with passion the reward will leave you with immensely powerful feelings. Sometimes you will fail and the pain will cut you like a knife. However, that is the beauty of things you will never experience true happiness, love, success if you don’t experience true pain from failure. That’s how it works “when you love something too much then be prepared to hurt too much, and anything in between will always be a lie.”
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”- Thomas A. Edison
This may be one of my favourite quotes to date. Edison is a perfect example of the positive ways to approach life. For you see, Edison did not fail the first 10,000 times he just found 10,000 different ways to not make a light bulb. Life is all about perspective. If you perceive things as negative, and believe in the negatives, then you will attract more of those negative things. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy, what you believe is what you unconsciously make come true or seem to be true. The more you think negatively the more evidence you will accumulate and search for to strength your belief. Maybe this whole #positivevibes movement is on to something. If you find you’re upset and things are never going your way reflect how you interpret life. Change your outlook on things and you will be much happier with life and yourself.
“ Don’t let anyone tell you that your problems aren’t valid” –Anonymous
There will be times in our lives where we will hurt. There will be times when we feel enveloped by something and we do not know what to do. There may be a time where we know something isn’t right and no matter what we do we cannot make things better. At some point in our lives we may experience something that we were never equipped to handle; anxiety, depression, loss of a relative/loved one, a failed grade, a fight, a financial barrier the list goes on. The problem is when we spiral into these situations we are afraid to ask for help or shed a tear. Sometimes we’re scared to ask for help because of stigma and the fear of being told to get over it or that life goes on. Sometimes when we do voice how we feel we are made to think our problems are not valid. However, you don’t need to be in an extreme scenario to experience pain and be upset. Just because you don’t have it as bad as those in a third world country does not mean you do not have the right to shed a tear or seek help. Comparing your life to the life of others solves absolutely nothing. The bottom line is a problem is a problem and if it has a big negative impact on your life it is worth talking about. Keeping all of your problems, no matter how big or how small you or others perceive them to be, bottled up inside of you will do nothing but build them into an even bigger issue. You owe it to yourself to do whatever you need to do in order to make yourself feel better. You deserve to feel good, so do yourself a favor and be proactive about doing so.
I do not know how to end this post. But I know that in 2017 we all need to be a little more compassionate, understanding, loving, and kind to ourselves, others and things in general. I am so tired of all the hate and disappointment in the media and social feeds. We all, myself included, need to reevaluate the way we act, speak and live in general. 2017 #positivevibes